Stop Domestic Violence Break the Cycle of Abuse
Stop Domestic Violence!
No matter why it happens,
abuse is not okay and it’s never justified!
Domestic Violence Awareness Month is an opportunity to spotlight an issue that has claimed too many lives, and we’re inviting you to get involved.
Domestic Violence is a pattern of many behaviors directed at achieving and maintaining power and control over an intimate partner, such as physical violence, emotional abuse, isolation of the victim, economic abuse, intimidation, coercion, and threats.
On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. "Even more alarming, black women suffer from higher partner violence rates and are 4 times more likely to be murdered by a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse than our white counterparts, [and about 2.5 times the rate of women of other races.
However, they are less likely than white women to use social services, battered women's programs, or go to the hospital because of Domestic Violence.] So when your partner says they love you to death, they might just mean it.
I’m a true believer that words have power, and as cliched as it sounds, actions oftentimes speaks louder than words. Although it may be cute that your dude acts jealous when you talk to male friends, or your girl gets mad when you hang out with your female friends, seemingly petty things like mistrust, control issues, and obsession can quickly turn violent and perhaps even deadly." The presence of guns in a home where Domestic Violence is a problem increases the risk of a murder by 500%.
Till Death Do You Part
by Lisa Burrell
He said, he loved me after the verbal abuse.
He said, he loved me after noticing me trying to cover the bruises.
He said, he loved me after he choked me.
He said, he loved me after he spit in my face.
He said, he loved me after he loaded the gun.
He said, he loved me after he removed the gun from my head.
He loved me after each rape.
He said, if I can’t have you NO ONE will.
He said “Till Death Do Us Part"!
My Lord said, "That's Not Love"!!!
Physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health effects have been linked with intimate partner violence including adolescent pregnancy, unintended pregnancy in general, miscarriage, stillbirth, intrauterine hemorrhage, nutritional deficiency, abdominal pain and other gastrointestinal problems, neurological disorders, chronic pain, disability, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as noncommunicable diseases such as hypertension, cancer and cardiovascular diseases. Victims of Domestic Violence are also at higher risk for developing addictions to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.
1 in 15 children
are exposed to intimate partner violence each year,
and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.
Break the Cycle of Abuse
5 Red Flags of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship:
You walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting your partner.
Your feelings and opinions are rarely validated.
Your partner is mistrustful of you for no reason.
You feel like you are unable to discuss problems in the relationship.
You feel "stuck" or confused most of the time.
It's not easy to know what to do when someone you love is in an abusive relationship; confronting the abuser is rarely the solution.
The following steps may help:
- Listen to and believe your loved one. Allow them to control their own lives. If your loved one does not want to leave or call the police, do not force them to.
- Do not get involved in their fights, as doing so may endanger you. Call the police instead.
- Offer your loved one a safe place to stay, or help him or her get to a shelter.
- Explore your loved one's reasons for staying, and offer to help. If childcare or finances are a concern, for instance, try offering some financial assistance.
You Can't Heal What You Refuse To Confront
Deal with your Soul - Don't numb the Pain
Survivors of violent acts, such as domestic violence, rape, sexual, physical and/or verbal abuse or physical attacks is normal to feel lots of emotions, such as distress, fear, helplessness, guilt, shame or anger. You may start to feel better after days or weeks, but sometimes, these feelings don’t go away. If the symptoms last for more than a month, you may have post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. There are healthy steps you can take to help you recover and stay well. Discover which ones help you feel better and add them to your life.
- Connect with friends and family. It’s easy to feel alone when you’ve been through a trauma and are not feeling well. But isolation can make you feel worse. Talking to your friends and family can help you get the support you need. Studies show that having meaningful social and family connections in your life can have a positive impact on your health and healing.
- Refrain from using drugs and alcohol. Although using drugs and alcohol may seem to help you cope, it can make your symptoms worse, delay your treatment and recovery, and can cause abuse or addiction problems.
- Relax. Each person has his or her own ways to relax. They may include listening to soothing music, reading a book or taking a walk. You can also relax by deep breathing, yoga, meditation or massage therapy. Avoid using drugs, alcohol or smoking to relax.
- Exercise. Exercise relieves your tense muscles, improves your mood and sleep, and boosts your energy and strength. In fact, research shows that exercise can ease symptoms of anxiety and depression. Try to do a physical activity three to five days a week for 30 minutes each day. If this is too long for you, try to exercise for 10 to 15 minutes to get started.
- Keep a journal. Writing down your thoughts can be a great way to work through issues. Researchers have found that writing about painful events can reduce stress and improve health.
- Limit caffeine. In some people, caffeine can trigger anxiety. Caffeine may also disturb your sleep.
- Limit TV watching. If watching the news or other programs bothers you, limit the amount of time you watch. Try not to listen to disturbing news before going to sleep. It might keep you from falling asleep right away.
- Get enough rest. Getting enough sleep helps you cope with your problems better, lowers your risk for illness and helps you recover from the stresses of the day. Try to get seven to nine hours of sleep each night. Visit the Sleep Foundation at www.sleepfoundation.org for tips on getting a better night’s sleep.
- Help others. Reconnect to your community by volunteering. Research shows that volunteering builds social networks, improves self-esteem and can provide a sense of purpose and achievement.
Help is Available
Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255
Veterans Suicide Hotline: 800-273-8255