Stop Domestic Violence Break the Cycle of Abuse

Stop Domestic Violence!
No matter why it happens,
abuse is not okay and it’s never justified!
Stop Domestic Violence!  No matter why it happens,  abuse is not okay and it’s never justified! #putthenailinit

Domestic Violence Awareness Month is an opportunity to spotlight an issue that has claimed too many lives, and we’re inviting you to get involved.

Domestic Violence is a pattern of many behaviors directed at achieving and maintaining power and control over an intimate partner, such as physical violence, emotional abuse, isolation of the victim, economic abuse, intimidation, coercion, and threats.

On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. "Even more alarming, black women suffer from higher partner violence rates and are 4 times more likely to be murdered by a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse than our white counterparts, [and about 2.5 times the rate of women of other races.

However, they are less likely than white women to use social services, battered women's programs, or go to the hospital because of Domestic Violence.] So when your partner says they love you to death, they might just mean it. 

I’m a true believer that words have power, and as cliched as it sounds, actions oftentimes speaks louder than words. Although it may be cute that your dude acts jealous when you talk to male friends, or your girl gets mad when you hang out with your female friends, seemingly petty things like mistrust, control issues, and obsession can quickly turn violent and perhaps even deadly." The presence of guns in a home where Domestic Violence is a problem increases the risk of a murder by 500%.

Till Death Do You Part 
by Lisa Burrell

He said, he loved me after the verbal abuse.
He said, he loved me after noticing me trying to cover the bruises.
He said, he loved me after he choked me.
He said, he loved me after he spit in my face.
He said, he loved me after he loaded the gun.
He said, he loved me after he removed the gun from my head.

He loved me after each rape.
He said, if I can’t have you NO ONE will. 
He said “Till Death Do Us Part"!
My Lord said, "That's Not Love"!!! 

Physical, mental, and sexual and reproductive health effects have been linked with intimate partner violence including adolescent pregnancy, unintended pregnancy in general, miscarriage, stillbirth, intrauterine hemorrhage, nutritional deficiency, abdominal pain and other gastrointestinal problems, neurological disorders, chronic pain, disability, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as well as noncommunicable diseases such as hypertension, cancer and cardiovascular diseases. Victims of Domestic Violence are also at higher risk for developing addictions to alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.

1 in 15 children are exposed to intimate partner violence each year, and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.

1 in 15 children
are exposed to intimate partner violence each year,
and 90% of these children are eyewitnesses to this violence.
  

Break the Cycle of Abuse

Donate and help victims become survivors #PutTheNailinIt

Domestic Violence Can Affect Anyone 1 in 4 Women 1 in 7 Men will experience domestic violence. 67% of Americans have never discussed the issue with their friends #PutTheNailInIt

5 Red Flags of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship:

1.
You walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting your partner.

2.
Your feelings and opinions are rarely validated.

3.
Your partner is mistrustful of you for no reason.

4.
You feel like you are unable to discuss problems in the relationship.

5.
You feel "stuck" or confused most of the time.

Shared from Domestic Violence No More


It's not easy to know what to do when someone you love is in an abusive relationship; confronting the abuser is rarely the solution.

The following steps may help:

  • Listen to and believe your loved one. Allow them to control their own lives. If your loved one does not want to leave or call the police, do not force them to.
  • Do not get involved in their fights, as doing so may endanger you. Call the police instead.
  • Offer your loved one a safe place to stay, or help him or her get to a shelter.
  • Explore your loved one's reasons for staying, and offer to help. If childcare or finances are a concern, for instance, try offering some financial assistance.

    Self Love Self Care

     You Can't Heal What You Refuse To Confront

    Deal with your Soul - Don't numb the Pain

    Survivors of violent acts, such as domestic violence, rape, sexual, physical and/or verbal abuse or physical attacks is normal to feel lots of emotions, such as distress, fear, helplessness, guilt, shame or anger.  You may start to feel better after days or weeks, but sometimes, these feelings don’t go away.  If the symptoms last for more than a month, you may have post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. There are healthy steps you can take to help you recover and stay well. Discover which ones help you feel better and add them to your life. 

    • Connect with friends and family.  It’s easy to feel alone when you’ve been through a trauma and are not feeling well.  But isolation can make you feel worse.  Talking to your friends and family can help you get the support you need. Studies show that having meaningful social and family connections in your life can have a positive impact on your health and healing.
    • Refrain from using drugs and alcohol.  Although using drugs and alcohol may seem to help you cope, it can make your symptoms worse, delay your treatment and recovery, and can cause abuse or addiction problems. 
    • Relax. Each person has his or her own ways to relax. They may include listening to soothing music, reading a book or taking a walk.  You can also relax by deep breathing, yoga, meditation or massage therapy. Avoid using drugs, alcohol or smoking to relax.  
    • Exercise. Exercise relieves your tense muscles, improves your mood and sleep, and boosts your energy and strength.   In fact, research shows that exercise can ease symptoms of anxiety and depression. Try to do a physical activity three to five days a week for 30 minutes each day.  If this is too long for you, try to exercise for 10 to 15 minutes to get started.
    • Keep a journal. Writing down your thoughts can be a great way to work through issues. Researchers have found that writing about painful events can reduce stress and improve health.
    • Limit caffeine. In some people, caffeine can trigger anxiety.  Caffeine may also disturb your sleep.
    • Limit TV watching.  If watching the news or other programs bothers you, limit the amount of time you watch.  Try not to listen to disturbing news before going to sleep.  It might keep you from falling asleep right away.
    • Get enough rest. Getting enough sleep helps you cope with your problems better, lowers your risk for illness and helps you recover from the stresses of the day. Try to get seven to nine hours of sleep each night.  Visit the Sleep Foundation at www.sleepfoundation.org for tips on getting a better night’s sleep.
    • Help others.  Reconnect to your community by volunteering.  Research shows that volunteering builds social networks, improves self-esteem and can provide a sense of purpose and achievement.

    Help is Available

    If you are experiencing domestic abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline! The advocates are available 24/7/365 to take your calls at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Individuals who are deaf or hard of hearing may use TTY 1-800-787-3224. 

    National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
    Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255
    Veterans Suicide Hotline: 800-273-8255

    Check out these Facebook pages for community support and more information: STOP Domestic Abuse | National Domestic Violence Hotline | Domestic Violence No More

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    References: Statistics | 5 Facts Everyone Must Know About Domestic Violence | Please, Don’t Love Me to Death


    2 comments

    • This issue on Domestic Violence was a very good and informative read, sadly this type of violence can be silent and has it way in allowing many to turn their heads and say “It’s not my business” but the numbers are steadly raising and now is the time we need to get involved to stop it or to help those get help; whether it’s the abused or the abuser. Let’s start somewhere to help a friend, a family member, a stranger…somebody.

      Dysce Hall
    • Why didn’t you mentioned verbal abuse. That’s as powerful as physical abuse. I think that is a red flag too

      Krystal

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